One of the best moments I had with my father was around the time I became a father myself. He often tells me that the early years of my brothers and I growing up were some of the best of his and my mother’s lives. It’s touching to hear that and be reminded of it. It’s also great to hear from your father that he believes you are a fantastic father.
My son turned 13 months over a week ago. And I have to tell you my dad is absolutely right! Being daddy is amazing, but certainly has its difficult moments. But, the crying, whining, late nights, or playing when you’re exhausted from a day of work, are all trumped by my little guy’s smile and laugh. Through my son, God is teaching me patience. While it’s one of the toughest lessons to learn, it’s essential if I want to be a great father for him.
Now that I’m daddy, my needs and wants must be secondary to both my wife and son. This isn’t a bad thing, it’s actually a blessed opportunity. By being a servant to my family, I am giving them the best of me and getting the most out of them as well. I’m not saying I’m perfect at this right now. However, I do believe it’s the ideal situation for all fathers. When we become daddy, we serve those who need us.
When I was growing up and to this day, my father serves us. Usually, it’s in the realm of actually serving the meal he cooked. He loves to make things for us. It’s a gift to us and to himself.
Honestly, I am truly a blessed man with two great fathers in my life. It turns out that my father-in-law is a remarkable example for me too. Again, it goes back to serving the family. He helps in a variety of ways, but especially when it comes to helping us redo our house. He, along with my mother-in-law, have helped us paint, do woodwork, lay floors, and many other things in the two homes we’ve owned. It all goes back to putting oneself before others out of love.
Aside from the problems we all face with those in our lives, you can always find examples of the good – even the great. For me, these men are solid role models of fatherhood. So, much so that when I think of how to be a father – I look to them. Because, aside from God the Father and St. Joseph, I can’t think of better servants to their families.
Fathers are servants. Simple as that. God bless.