My wife was born three-and-a-half decades ago this week. More than one of those has been lived with me as her husband. Sometimes I quip with friends on their birthdays, “I’m glad you were born.” Although it often comes across flippant, it’s really a serious statement at heart. And in a sense, it’s the essence of what […]


When I was only four years old my father police officer Bobby Thomas passed away from cancer. Most boys grow up wanting to be just like their dad but I never got a chance to know mine. I would heard countless stories of all the work he did to help others and would hear my […]

My Stepfather Was My Father

According to Merriam-Webster dictionary, the definition of Step: “a movement made by lifting your foot and putting it down in a different place”.  The definition of Stepfather: “a man that your mother marries after her marriage to or relationship with your father has ended”.  I never knew my father and mom did not marry him. I […]

Define A Fatherhood Legacy

I always tell my kids it does not matter what people think about you. That isn’t quite true, is it? We all have people in our lives whose opinions matter. For me, that is my wife and children. They are the only people in my life who’s opinion I hold in the highest regard. I […]