How Swimming (and a Coach) Saved My Life

I grew up in an environment of mixed messages. On the outside, our family appeared normal, stable, and even successful. On the inside, it was a different story. Relationally, things were chaotic and unpredictable. The atmosphere was one of anger, uncertainty, and fear. Sadly, my early years were affected deeply by sexual abuse. In the midst […]

My Father’s Love – It’s Complicated

As I ponder the many memories of my father, my childhood and our close relationship, I understand now that he taught me so much more about life and the many lessons that it brings, than I could have ever imagined.  He neglected to say, however, the lessons would sometimes seem extremely complicated, but invaluable.  I […]

Don’t Wish Away Your Life

Her 18th birthday was getting close but not quite close enough For she could hardly wait to be free of childish stuff She couldn’t wait for college, to head down her own path To live a brand new future and be free of Mom and Dad No parents breathing down her neck, no teachers keeping […]

What makes a good dad?

I want to take a moment to reflect on the years that I have had with my incredible husband. We started our journey together in 1989 as freshman on a large college campus. First we were just friends, but quickly our relationship blossomed and we became inseparable. He was encouraging, fun, and very loving. I […]

Dads-What Will Your Legacy Be?

One of the greatest joys in my life is writing these posts for you all. My dad was one of my top 3 favorite people in my life. He was the first man I ever loved and this June, it will be two years since he’s been gone. The word on the web is that […]

The Good Father

I am a father, but perhaps not in a traditional sense.  My firstborn son, Mateo Aslan Wise, was born stillborn December 18, 2015.  When I learned I would be a father last summer, I was excited, nervous, and full of joy and love.  I had big dreams for my son, and for the relationship we […]

Dad, Dad, Dad

Not long ago, I was sitting with a friend of mine, surrounded by her husband and two daughters. Her father was in the center of the room, in a hospital bed, on oxygen. He looked ashen… He was dying. It is times like these when I flash back to my own father’s life and death. […]

Memories are made in the Everyday Moments

It’s the little things that often make the biggest impact in a child’s life. I have some very vivid memories of growing up with a dad who was determined to provide everything he never received as a child. Unfortunately, this left little time for the children. I longed to be with my dad, so whenever […]

“High Tide: A Story Of Football,Freefall and Forgiveness”

My worst day? That is a difficult question, but by January 7, 2007, I believed that life was really not worth living. I had tried to medicate those feelings with large amounts of drugs and alcohol. It seemed to be a mystery that multiple rehabs, psych wards and even jail couldn’t change. That day I […]

The Power of A Father’s Praise

My Father was a man who said what he meant and meant what he said.  He always told me I was smarter than him, and maybe that was true on an IQ test, but in practical terms, he always seemed better at most everything than I believe I’ll ever be.  He hunted, he fished, he […]


My dad is no longer with us but he was very present when he was. Dad was an excellent provider and loved my mom dearly. He always reminded my mom that her going to work was not an option and she would be so disappointed. I could not understand it myself but it was so […]

One Determined Dad

If you ever listen to the radio in your car, you know how a song or something a DJ says suddenly grabs your attention? Sometimes it’s because they’re giving away tickets to your favorite artist’s next concert! This time, I turned on the radio in my car and it was on the Christian station where I […]