My father, Frank Boyer, used to listen to me when I was down in the dumps or upset about something. He would then ask me, “What is the worst that can happen?” So I would relate all the awful consequences of what could or would happen as a follow-on to the event topic. After patiently listening to my rants and venting, he was ask another question, “Will it kill you?” I would get aggravated and retort, “Of course not!” He would quietly answer, “Then it’s not a problem.”
That was his way of telling me how important the ‘problem’ was in the overarching length of my life. Whatever happens in life, there is always an end to it – may be good, may be bad, but if it won’t kill you, then in the grand scheme of things, it’s not as bad as the alternative.